Coming 2026

Never Wish
For Less Time

You can negotiate with people, but time moves in one direction. A guide to navigating the "arrow of time" for the Elder Millennial.

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The Arrow of Time

Physics calls it the “arrow of time”—the one-way move from order into disorder. As conscious beings, we live inside of it.

Solomon called life 'a vapor.' Camus saw us striving only to watch time undo everything. But the arrow of time is also what makes life meaningful.

"I wait for most things to be over... Everything you love and hate leaves at the same speed."
— John Mayer

Visualize The Vapor

"The days are long, but the years are short."

I am years old.

1,976 Weeks Lived

2,704 Weeks Remaining

The Framework

Core Concepts

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Map vs. Ladder

The 'ladder' life is about meeting expectations. The 'map' life is about exploration. Midlife is the moment to switch.

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The Pause

Contentment is the discipline of stopping the negotiation with the future and accepting the terms of the present.

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Seasons

There is a time to kill and a time to heal. Understanding your season prevents the misery of trying to harvest during winter.

Bibliography & Art

Foundational Inspirations

Bergler's Revolt

The psychoanalytic take on the midlife rebel.

Life Begins at 40

Pitkin's seminal work on aging.

Sisyphus

Finding meaning in the struggle.

John Mayer

"Everything you love and hate leaves at the same speed."

About the Author

Joey DeFilippo is an Elder Millennial navigating the middle passage of life. Drawing from theology, philosophy, and the hard-won lessons of house flipping and parenting, he explores how we can live meaningfully in a world where everything vaporizes.

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